Does everyone else seem to be moving fast in their relationships? Do you ever find yourself attracted to your friends?
Maybe you are demiromantic.
This is when you develop romantic feelings for another person only after you have built a strong emotional connection with them.
As a demiromantic, you probably don’t really get attached to someone unless there’s a much deeper level of emotion involved. This can apply to anyone regardless of their gender identity or sexual orientation.
In the digital age where so many of our interactions are superficial, it can be easy to think that maybe you’re not trying hard enough to get emotionally invested. But that may not be the case.
And this should not be confused with “demisexual” – that is when someone needs an emotional connection to feel sexual attraction.
So how can you identify if you are a demiromantic? Dating and relationship coach Kate Mansfield told Metro.co.uk some key highlights.
Kate said, “If you take the time to get connected in relationships, and like to take it easy, you may be demiromantic, but that doesn’t mean you don’t enjoy physical affection.
“Demiromantic people are generally more likely to cuddle, snuggle, and have sex when they’re also romantically interested in someone.”
But forming that deeper connection can be tricky, so if you’re feeling a little lost, there are things you can do to help yourself.
“Speak openly about your feelings, be prepared to be vulnerable,” Kate said.
“This creates a lot of emotional connection. Ultimately, this will enhance the chemistry and create much more warmth between you. Openness is sexy.’
She added: “I think everyone should open up much earlier than most of us. If we take the risk of being authentic, we give the relationship a much better chance of working in the long run.”
Being a demiromantic can mean that you like to take it easy in a possible dating scenario and you have every right to do so. Regardless of what other people think.
Don’t be pressured to speed things up. In an age of sex on first dates, it can be good to take a step back sometimes.
Kate said, “Other people may find your behavior unusual, even old-fashioned. But don’t be put off by it.
“Never try to be someone else, taking it easy is good and will always be better for the relationship in the end.”
Kate says being demiromantic can really help build a positive relationship with a good foundation.
Being “demiromantic” is just another way for me to build a healthy relationship, one that strikes a good balance between emotional and sexual or physical compatibility,” Kate said.
“It’s definitely something we can and should all try to cultivate.”
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