Everyone tells my wife how lucky she is to have met me, but she leaves me nothing in her will

DEAR DEIDRE: EVERYONE tells my wife how lucky she is to have met me, but in her will she leaves everything to her only daughter and nothing to me.

I thought we were both working hard for our retirement, but this really knocked me out.

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I am 64 and she is 61 and we have been together for ten years. Her daughter is 29.

Admittedly, my wife owned the house before I moved in, but I’ve since paid half the mortgage and paid for the attic conversion, which is an added value.

I bring her breakfast in bed, take care of her when she’s sick, treat her to nice surprise gifts – but it seems like none of that matters.

I like her daughter, but I’m upset that I’m expected to leave my house with nothing. Am I selfish?

DEIDRE SAYS: You do not say whether your wife knows that you are aware of the contents of her will.

If your relationship is good, her decision may seem at odds with the love you feel for her.

Whether she knows it or not, you really need to discuss this with her and explain how you feel.

Hopefully you will discover that this is an old testament and that she is more than willing to update her wishes.

If things don’t improve, I would definitely recommend that you go to a counselor together and get legal advice as well.

I’m sending you my Counseling Support Pack that explains how to find a reputable counselor.