I have sex with my cousin and want to go out, but she is terrified of our family’s reaction

DEAR DEIDRE: I’m in love with my niece and want to go public, but she’s terrified of our family’s reaction.

I’m thinking about making an announcement at an upcoming family celebration in the hopes that once everyone gets over the initial shock, they’ll be happy for us — and she’ll see it’s best to put our relationship out in the open. to bring.

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I am a 29 year old male, she is 23.

We only met three years ago when her father – my mother’s younger brother – brought his family back from Australia.

We really hit it off and all my friends love her because she’s so cute.

She became a regular member of my friendship group, and although I didn’t let her know, I knew I was starting to have feelings for her.

After a big night out, she came back to stay with me like she had before.

But this time, after saying goodnight and falling asleep in my bed, I felt her climb in and snuggle up against me. We didn’t say a word, but ended up having the most intense sex I’ve ever experienced.

We’ve been seeing each other for over a year now and are both madly in love.

My friends know and although they were quite shocked at the beginning, they have now accepted us. I want our relationship out in the open so we can move on with life.

I would love to see her move in and one day I will definitely see us getting married and having kids.

She says she wants the same things I do, but she can’t risk her parents cutting her off.

She says she needs time to work it out.

DEIDRE SAYS: While many feel culturally that dating your cousin is wrong, it’s not illegal.

You two clearly have something special and shouldn’t worry about other people’s opinions.

Of course, if you don’t come clean, your relationship will never fully develop. Instead, it will eventually stagnate and you will no doubt start to hate your girlfriend.

But please don’t go out until your cousin is completely ready.

Even if your family accepted your relationship, she could rightly be ambushed by you and would resent you for denying her the choice.

It would really help both of you to see a relationship counselor to work through this together.

You can find an advisor at: tavistockrelationships.org (020 7380 1960), who have help available online.