DEAR DEIDRE: I've fallen in love with my kitchen fitter – and not my husband.
At first I stayed away from him while he worked, but as the month went on I found myself laughing and chatting with him. I started looking forward to him coming, and I made sure I was dressed and presentable.
I am 35, my husband is 39 and we have been married for ten years. We have one daughter together who is seven.
My husband works long hours as a restaurant and bar manager and I run an online clothing store.
Once the kitchen was done, we exchanged numbers and started texting regularly. We talked about everything — and I mean everything — including what we liked in bed.
Then the unavoidable happened. We had a few drinks in a bar and we got too close.
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The situation quickly escalated and we started exploring sexual fantasies together, something my husband has no interest in at all.
Since then our relationship has blossomed and I am completely in love with him.
We had a blissful marriage until I discovered my husband was having an affair a year ago. I felt so betrayed and things haven't been the same since.
I didn't mean to be unfaithful, but my beloved was so attentive that I found it hard to resist him.
My lover, who is 45, wants to support me and I am ready to leave my husband for him, but I don't want to hurt my daughter.
I am in such a mess and feel so trapped. My lover has been so patient but I feel guilty for making him wait so long.
I worry all the time that he'll find someone else.
DEIDRE SAYS: You may sound convinced that you want your marriage to end, but before you make any hasty decisions, remember that you are still in the early stages of your romance with your loved one.
It's inevitable that it will feel great and it's understandable that you'll want to follow that exciting feeling, but I'd encourage you to think carefully about whether your marriage is worth fighting for.
You should only leave because you are unhappy, not because you have a loved one by your side.
The last thing you want is to turn your life upside down and discover that life with your loved one isn't right for you.
My support package Torn Between Two Men will help with this.
If you decide to stay, relationship counselling is essential. You can find support through Tavistock Relationships, (tavistockrelationships.org, 020 7380 1975).