Sun, sweat and sly outfits. As temperatures rise, so do our sex drive – and this, experts say, could lead to increased stray rates.
We previously heard that July is the month that Britons are like crazy, but now the people at the business site Illicit Encounters have revealed that it is also a peak time for fraud.
So much so, they warn against a looming ‘fraud wave’, which will strike from 1 July.
The team says subscriptions to their website are up 18% in July as fraudsters seize one last chance for action before heading off on holidays in August.
The most dangerous day of all? Friday 22 July – christened Frisky Friday – because it is the last day before school holidays begin and families start leaving abroad.
Of course, there is also extramarital sex to have on vacation, but for long-term relationships, this will be the last chance for many cheaters to see their secret dates.
Top reasons why people cheat
According to a survey of people who have affairs, by Illicit Encounters, these are the most common reasons why people cheat …
Has the most common reasons why women cheat:
- Sex is bad at home
- I was drunk
- I went looking for excitement online
- I was looking for a change
- Meet someone at work
- Mismatched libido with size
- Stranger came to me
- Revenge for my cheating partner
- monogamy is unnatural
- New year, new me!
Has the most common reasons why men cheat:
- I was drunk and a chance came
- I want more sex than my partner
- I get bored having sex with the same person
- New year, new me!
- Meet someone I liked at work
- My friends cheated too, so I decided to give it a try
- Revenge fraud
- I went online looking for fun
- Life is too short to stay with one partner
- I like to add and keep up with my total of partners
“Affairs activity is shooting up by almost a fifth over the course of the month as fraudsters seize one last chance for some action before the summer break,” says sex expert Jessica Leoni.
‘There’s a steady increase in the first three weeks of July and an explosion on Frisky Friday when so many couples will tackle it in secret just as the school holidays begin.
“The pubs are always crowded this time of year with couples cheating and 2022 is the busiest year ever as we make the most of the new liberties to Covid.”
Be warned: If your plan is to just wait for July and be happy as soon as the 31 days are over, you are not clear – Illicit Encounters says August also sees quite a lot of affairs, fueled by the lure of summer flying.
Plus, let’s be honest: if anyone is going to cheat, they’ll do it regardless of the weather or the time of year.
Worried that your partner might get lost? You may want to look out for these six warning signs …
They continue MIA
Do you often find it difficult to get in touch with them? Have you noticed that while their responses to messages used to be fast, now they sometimes go for hours without an answer?
This does not automatically mean that fraud is taking place, but in combination with other red flags it can be a little worrying.
Intimacy fades
They are no longer sensitive or romantic with you, and you feel increasingly disconnected.
They are scratching around their phone
Everyone has a right to privacy, but if your partner is so sensitive about their phone that they never leave it out of sight, their screen is always out of sight, and they suddenly changed their password, alarm bells should ring.
They become more mysterious
On that note, do they often lock themselves in a room, take phone calls out of earshot and go out without you knowing what they are doing? All red flags.
You no longer go on dates together
“You will know they are still in love with you when they always make time for romantic dates,” says dating expert Celia Schweyer. No one is ever “too busy” to spend time with someone he loves unless they have fallen in love or found someone else.
“The moment they start making excuses when you ask them for a quality time together, something is probably wrong.”
Your sex life has suddenly changed
Has the number of times you and your partner become intimate each week suddenly dropped or increased?
Both can be worrisome. A drop can mean that your other half is satisfied outside of the relationship, but a sudden increase can be driven by feelings of guilt – sometimes when people cheat, they try to cover up their tracks by being more sexually active with their partner.
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