It can be easy to minimize the death of an animal, but if you’ve ever had a pet in your life, you know how devastating it is to lose them.
Tomorrow begins National Grief Awareness Week, and with Christmas also just around the corner, our thoughts went out to those looking to spend a festive season without their beloved pets for the first time.
Diane James, the head of pet death emergency services at Blue Cross, says any time of year can be challenging without your trusty friend, but Christmas can be especially tough.
She adds, “We must remember that it is not alone dogs and cats, but all animals, from little ones to horses, that can bring joy to our lives and sorrow when they leave us.
“The love we have for our pets is what makes all these losses so important, and you have to make sure you’re careful and kind to yourself.”
“What’s important is knowing how you feel is normal. To have had a pet in our lives that has brought us joy, love and memories is something very special.”
While grief can affect us all in different ways, there are things you can do to help yourself process the loss in a healthy way.
Memory boxes, festive and otherwise, are great options for keepsakes, or you can choose to have a painting or framed photo of your pet hanging in your home.
“Remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve,” Diane explains. “It can help to talk about how you feel and the memories you have, by talking to people who understand, can really make a difference.
“One way to remember them that can help is to write down what the loss feels like that you would say if you could.
“It won’t replace the closure you wish you had, but it will help you share your feelings about the loss.” This can make a difference by placing this behind the pet’s photo or in a keepsake box.
“Some of us will want to commemorate the loss at this time of year by, for example, hanging a special Christmas bauble on the tree, planting a new plant in the garden or putting a new pot by the door.”
You may also want to chat while walking past their favorite spot, or sit in the garden near their favorite spot with a hot cup of tea and a blanket.
“If you have other pets, make sure you bring them along,” adds Diane.
“Stick to their routines and remember that they can pick up on sadness and fear.
“The unconditional love they give is so special at any time of the year, so we should not only think of them, but also be kind to ourselves.”
Blue Cross’ Pet Grief Support Service offers support 365 days a year, including Christmas Day, from 8:30 a.m. to 8:30 p.m. To speak to someone and get support by phone, email, or web chat, go to bluecross.org.uk/pet-bereavement-and-pet-loss
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