A dating coach has revealed five problems attractive women have when dating — including many men who think she’s out of their league.
Jacob Lucas, who lives in the UK, says he has “helped millions of people get the love life they’ve always wanted through his real-life methods.”
He works directly with clients, as well as creating dating content on TikTok, to his nearly 740,000 followers. He is also the author of the Her Dating Coach guide.
In a recent videocaptioned “being an attractive woman isn’t easy when dating,” Jacob outlined why this may be the case.
He shared five reasons why women who are considered physically attractive may have difficulty meeting men.
British dating coach Jacob Lucas (pictured) has outlined five problems attractive women can have when trying to date men
In the video, Jacob says, “I am one professional dating coach. And these are five problems that attractive women have when they are dating.
The first reason he cites has to do with the insecurity men can feel when seeing attractive women, and how this can then lead to conflict.
He explains, “Number one, a lot of men actually can’t stand others wanting to flirt with her and look at her.
So the guy she is dating gets very jealous because he is insecure about himself. And that can lead to a lot of arguments.’
The second point he brings up has to do with the fact that some men won’t even hang out with a woman they find very physically attractive because they believe there’s no point in it.
According to Jacob, “Number two, a lot of men think she’s out of their league.
“And that’s why they didn’t actually approach her because it seemed like she wouldn’t be interested in them anyway.”
Moving on to the third point, the dating coach explains how women’s intent can sometimes be misunderstood by men, who may think she’s trying to make a move, when she’s just having a conversation.
One of the reasons cited by the dating coach is that men don’t even approach women they think are out of their league, or conversely, get too selfish when they see women who are considered conventionally pretty
“Number three if she’s just being friendly and trying to have a conversation with a guy,” explains Jacob.
“A lot of men will get their hopes up and assume she’s flirting with them when in reality she just wants a friendly conversation.”
His next reason relates to the male ego, and how dating a conventionally attractive woman can affect men.
He says, “Number four, when she’s dating a man, sometimes a man’s ego gets inflated because he’s dating an attractive woman.”
“Then he starts treating her like she’s lucky to be with him, when in reality he’s lucky to be with her.”
The last problem Jacob cites is about how physically attractive women can discover that their looks are valued over their intellect and personality.
He explains, “And number five, she’s going to have a hard time finding a real connection with a man because unfortunately a lot of men focus on her looks rather than getting to know her personality.”
The video received more than 7,000 comments, with women sharing their experiences of dating.
Women took to the comments section of the video to share their experience of dating, with many revealing they could identify with the issues outlined by Jacob
One wrote: ‘The truth. Makes for a lonely life. Make me wonder what I’m doing wrong. It gets tiring.’
Another added: ‘ #1 and #3 are especially true. I never understood number 1 until I dated an insecure man. Every man was after me or I was after every man. Tiring.’
And a third said, “I once dated a man for two years who “had to tailor me” because he thought I was too good for him. Never been so insecure in my life.’
Meanwhile, another commenter revealed, “All this especially the last one. All they see is my appearance and they don’t care who I am as a person. I feel like an object.’
And another agreed, writing, “That last one is so true. While it’s nice to receive compliments, they get old if it has nothing to do with my depth or intelligence.”