I don’t trust myself to be alone with my new colleague because he is so hot

DEAR DEIDRE: OUR new warehouse manager is so hot I’m afraid I won’t be able to control myself next week when we’re alone together.

The problem is I’m a respectable 41-year-old woman.

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I’ve been married for almost 19 years and I feel like I’m a school girl in love with this guy.

My husband is 45 and he is beautiful but very conventional.

He is a tax advisor and very firm in his demeanor. He doesn’t like going out for dinner and takes the same sandwiches (cheese and pickle or egg mayonnaise) to work day in and day out.

We only go hiking in Scotland for holidays and he won’t hear about us going abroad.

We have vanilla sex, Sunday morning and Wednesday night.

I’ve tried to change things up, dress for him, give him the come-on, but he never takes the bait.

I work in an office for an online clothing company.

We were so busy that our warehouse team struggled to keep afloat, so our boss hired a new man. He’s 37, single and he’s beautiful.

He splits his time between organizing the staff in the warehouse and sitting across from me in the office. I can’t stop looking at him.

I was only too happy to show him the different office systems and where to get the best coffee. I think he likes me too.

I am now selective about what clothes I wear, I bought some new perfume and I get my nails done.

I long for him to kiss me.

I had sex with my husband twice last week, as usual, and I closed my eyes imagining it’s my sexy new coworker making out with me.

We’ll be working together all through next week until late.

The devil on one shoulder can’t wait to spend time alone with him, but the angel on the other shoulder tells me it’s time to find a new job.

DEIDRE SAYS: If he likes you, it doesn’t take much to start an affair that could jeopardize your marriage and jeopardize your job.

This guy may seem to offer a bit of excitement compared to your man’s predictable behavior, but an affair will complicate your life and someone will get hurt.

We can all still love people when we’re married or in long-term relationships, but it’s whether we act on those feelings that counts.

If you want things to get better at home, tell your husband that your relationship is missing some va va voom.

Insist that you book that vacation abroad, have a few date nights together, and then it’s back home for a night of real passion.

You can just bring out your fun side.