LOVE Island is in full swing with dramatic scenes in last night’s recoupling.
Breathtaking and cruel words were said as couples collapsed from the hit ITV reality TV programme†
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Andrew blasted tasha as “fake” before admitting to her that he saw no future with his new partner cocoa†
Jacques brutally reminded Paige they were both single after she learned about his affair with Cheyanne†
And Quantitywho reconnected with a new girl Summercouldn’t hide his irritation when indiyah returned with a new partner, with fans shocked by his “guts”.
dr. Veronica Lamarche, an associate professor of psychology at the University of Essex, watched the series closely and said there is a characteristic that most of the men in the village portray in this series.
And it will hurt their relationships if they can’t shake it, she said.
Dr Lamarche told The Sun: “It has been shown very clearly that the men are not comfortable with the vulnerability of opening up to another person.”
Being vulnerable in front of another person helps create a bond, she said. But people are afraid that they run the risk of being hurt.
It essentially means “to be on your guard”.
Dr Lamarche said: “Research shows that if you want to build a stable, long-term relationship, you need to be open to those moments of vulnerability to form a deeper connection with people.
“People see devotion and vulnerability as a more ‘feminine’ than a ‘masculine’ quality.”
dr. Lamarche’s Research has found that when men feel that their masculinity is publicly threatened, they also report less closeness and commitment in their romantic relationships.
“Threats from masculinity may motivate men to cognitively disconnect and downplay the importance of their relationships as an attempt to performatively and publicly restore their threatened masculinity,” the paper said.
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At the risk of being thought “foolish” and publicly embarrassed, some men have strayed from their partner’s island.
dr. Lamarche said, “Self-image protection is really evident in this group of men”.
“And they really amplify it among themselves,” she said, referring to the men urging each other to “cheat” about Casa Amor.
dr. Lamarche said: “They are trying to prove themselves as ‘guys’ to each other. That encourages them to take on new opportunities instead of staying strong.”
Jacques had shown a vulnerable side of Paige before Casa Amor.
He opened up to the Welsh paramedic in their second week of being linked, admitting he “can’t show emotion” and was scared.
While Paige responded positively to the conversation, Jacques seemed to become more insecure about it after the conversation.
He had an outburst at Paige the next day when she didn’t follow him to the pool, fearing that her attention would Jaywho was chasing her – possibly a threat to his manhood.
Given the option to regain control during Casa Amor, Jacques went ahead with Cheyanne and Dr. Lamarche said his “fear of vulnerability could take over and ruin a good thing with Paige”.
But in the end, he stayed with Paige and had to face the consequences of his secret agreement.
When it comes to Andrew turning against Tasha after being paired up for four weeks, Dr. Lamarche: “Andrew has shown that he is constantly concerned that Tasha will make fun of him.
“He reacted very strongly to someone he had never met before [the new girls] said she talks about you behind your back.’
dr. Lamarche said: “When I feel vulnerable and feel like someone is taking advantage of me, I want to test if there is someone who will amplify how I want people to see me.
“That’s not a test for the relationship. You test whether you are a good, valued partner and want someone to confirm it.
“I think for some men that’s basically what they’re testing — how much validation they can get from other people.”
Lucaon the other hand, was an outlier in the group and chose to remain loyal to Gemma despite the potential to be publicly humiliated.
Dr Lamarche said: “Luca has consistently shown that he was unsure about how Gemma felt towards him, but he has physically removed himself from any temptation.
“He took the approach of, ‘I think this is something worth the risk to be ashamed of, I put myself out there and she could walk in with someone else’ — but he’s clearly taking that risk. “