ROSIE GREEN: Do our early nights cause vigilance?

“Can I ask you to leave by 9 pm?”

My boyfriend is wondering if it is acceptable to ask our dinner guests this.

I tell him it’s probably (absolutely definitely) unacceptable to society. He has a sigh and a contest. You see, my boyfriend is a morning lark.

He likes to turn it off by 10 pm, wakes up at 5 am, processes the document by 6 am, and then sends an email that arrives before 7 am.

I’m similar.

I bounce off the bed like a Tigger and fire in every cylinder.

Most ordinary people are aware that they are still in REM at that point, so you should refrain from sending messages to people before 6am.

I’m cognitively alert at the dawn of destruction, so I often think I’m a good person to be in the army. (However, I’m not very good at other things, such as taking orders, fighting, and wearing those fatigues. It’s very uncomfortable for my lower back.)

However, on the contrary, at dusk, it becomes impossible to connect sentences, not to mention deep and meaningful conversations. And I’m also troublesome.

At the party, it looks like a royal fern and is absolutely wild until around 9 pm. I’m not the one who stays up until a small time to chew fat. No, I slept and fitted my earplugs tightly.

The relationship with someone who has the same circadian rhythm as me is different.

A breeze blows in at dawn, and I feel amorous at the same time.

My ex was the opposite-a proper night owl. In the evening, he was up to see the end of the movie, even after bedtime. Imagination!

Naturally, he will be the last person to leave the party. At midnight, I nod him from the corner of the room – a non-verbal five-minute warning, like a fun policeman – he was anxious to stay a little longer.

This irritated me, and definitely he, I wanted to be a party animal, but at that time my body and brain crave to sleep as the islanders of love pay attention.

Going back to bed, I would ask him to turn off the lights while he wants to go to the end of the chapter.

The difference in our body clock didn’t encourage sex because he agrees with it when I’m exhausted. The reverse is also true.

There were other friction points. There was nothing to awaken him early. It’s not a storm. It’s not a neighbor’s party. It’s not noise that could be an intruder (it was actually wind). And a baby who isn’t crying (his own).

I often woke up at 6am and was thinking about all the work we / he had to do. Then, when he opened his eyes a few hours later (this may or may not have been caused by an “accidental” loud noise … um), I “act” for him. I have prepared a to-do list.

Isn’t it strange that our relationship didn’t go far?

I wonder how your circadian rhythm affects the success of your relationship. It’s good that my boyfriend and I are in agreement, but we have to be careful because our mutual early bird tendencies are out of proportion.

If you don’t see it, you’ll eat dinner at the same time as your toddler or prisoner, or you’ll fall asleep before it gets dark.

If the start time is too late, you can decline the invitation. And yes, we impose an unreasonable curfew on our guests.

You may lose your friends.

That is a real concern.

So, before that, why don’t you come to dinner?

Is it okay at 5 pm?

@lifesrosie