You can tell a lot by the way a person holds themselves.
Paying attention to someone’s posture, their eye contact, and where they place their hands can all help you get a little context about how they’re feeling right now.
A person’s body language can also tell you how they feel in relation to you.
It’s essentially metadata about whether or not to get a second date.
According to body language expert Adrianne Carter, 53, there are some telltale signs you’re giving someone the ick, such as leaning away from you, folding their arms, creating a barrier, and subtly wrinkling their nose.
“Generally, if someone gives you the creeps, you wrinkle your nose a little bit,” she said.
“If someone doesn’t like someone or has the jitters, you see that nose wrinkling in disgust.”
These expressions won’t be obvious, but there will be a lot of them, she added, so you’ll probably only catch them if you’re actively paying attention.
If a date isn’t interested, it’s likely they’re subconsciously putting some space between the two of you, by sitting back or putting some kind of barrier in front of themselves.
“When you’re on a date, they might move something in front of them or, I hate to say it, cross their arms,” Adrianne said (although it’s important to remember that some people do this just to feel to comfort).
“When we’re interested in someone, we lean in,” she continued.
“If someone doesn’t like you or doesn’t love you, it’s more likely that there will be more space between you and them.”
Adrianne’s main signs that someone is not interested in you:
- Lean backwards
- Create a barrier
- Pinch their nose
On the other hand, openness, rather than someone seeming closed, is a good indication that they love you.
“I have a simple rule of thumb,” Adrianne said. ‘Open facial expression, open-mindedness, open body language, [means] they are interested.’
The main signals are keeping eye contact, raising their eyebrows, rolling up their sleeves and, of course, getting close to you.
“A really simple rule for dates is that when someone leans in — gets closer to you — it’s probably going to be fine,” Adrianne said.
Then there’s the perfect amount of eye contact (apparently about 60-70%).
But it’s not just about keeping eye contact.
Adrianne added: ‘If you want to know if someone likes you and they’re not giving you constant eye contact, pay attention to this.
“In a double flash, someone looks away, looks again, and looks again.
“It’s very revealing, it means the person is interested.”
There is also an eyebrow flash, when someone quickly raises their eyebrows and smiles.
Finally, there is peacocking, where someone draws attention to their appearance to show they are interested, for example by playing with their hair or rolling up their sleeves.
“This is when people start messing with their hair, they pay attention to it,” Adrianna said.
“They’re trying to get your attention, if they flicker or flicker their hair, it’s a sign that they want to look good for you and they want you to notice.”
“Some men roll up their sleeves – when he rolls up his sleeves, he wants you to see his forearms to show his strength.
“When he rolls up his sleeves, he’s interested and ready for action. The same goes for women.’
Adrianne’s main signs that someone is interested in you:
- Lean forward
- Eye contact
- An eyebrow flash
- A double look
- Roll up sleeves
- Show their necks
Of course, all of this should be taken with a grain of salt: a lack of eye contact may be more about shyness than a lack of interest, and someone who rolls up their sleeves doesn’t always mean they’re ready to go. ‘.
But it’s always a good idea to pay attention to people’s body language, even if it’s not a romantic situation.
Being able to tell if someone is feeling uncomfortable or agitated will make you a more empathetic person and probably a better communicator.
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