You'll be surprised who my plus one is to a sex club

I looked at my lover and smiled, realizing how much he was enjoying my touch.

I was in a private club and people were having sex all around us, their moans were the perfect soundtrack to our naughty activities.

As he unzipped his jeans, my hands ran over his body.

We were about to move to the next level when suddenly, out of the corner of my eye, I saw a familiar shape.

I froze, knowing that if I turned my head I would come face to face with my friend, Delia*, who I considered my plus one for this sex club.

I turned slowly toward the door and just caught a glimpse of her hair as she ran out of the room. Delia had just caught me with my pants down (literally, because I wasn't wearing any pants) in the middle of foreplay.

This is still one of the most humiliating sexual moments of my life. Although at that moment I wanted the ground to swallow me up, I have since learned that this is part of going to a sex club.

Anything can happen, especially if you go with a friend, which I have done many times since then.

I can imagine some of you are shaking your heads as you read this, the thought of seeing your partner in the throes of passion making you feel sick. People usually raise their eyebrows when they find out that I have brought mine to many events.

I understand that you may find this strange, but hear me out: Being single can prevent people from trying new things.

The first time I went to a sex club I was terrified. I had no idea what I would see and I was afraid that people would think I was weird for going to such an event without a lover.

What I discovered was that not only is it completely normal to do this when you're single, but it's also not at all strange to bring a friend along for company.

A few years ago I was planning to attend a sensual dinnerI didn't have a steady partner at that time.

Even though I'm a confident woman, I found the idea of ​​sitting alone at a table with a bunch of naked swingers and chatting quite intimidating.

But I didn’t want my relationship status to get in the way of my experience, so I brought in a male friend – Benny* – to come along.

He gladly accepted the invitation and I was not really surprised by his reaction to my invitation, because Benny is an open-minded, self-confident man with a six-pack.

He was just excited at the prospect of having sex – with someone who wasn't me, I might add.

It was an enlightening evening with various exercises intended to loosen up the group, including a nude painting show and a lesson in shibaria Japanese form of intricate bondage.

I've had some great conversations and a hot moment with a guy in a hot tub.

Benny was having a good time too: I found him naked and entangled with a beautiful woman against a wall in the stairwell.

Most of the evening went smoothly, but at some point I started to feel a bit uncomfortable with the many couples around me. While they were all eager to have sex, many of them were clinging to their partners towards the end of the evening.

One of the downsides of being single in a sex club is that you can sometimes feel left out. But it helped that Benny was there, even though he was having sex with someone in the other room.

In this case, I didn't want to get in the way of his fun, so I just hung around until he was done (pun fully intended) and then suggested we leave.

It's good to remember that sex events aren't just about sex. They can be anything you want them to be, especially if you're with a buddy.

Another time, a friend and I spent most of the evening chatting on the couch, drinking wine and listening to people playing in the background.

Another time, I danced all evening to the sounds of a live band, completely ignoring the couples sitting behind me in the stands, groping each other.

They had their fun, my buddy and I had ours.

For example, I once took a friend for a week to a popular swingers resort in the Caribbean.

Sure, there was some sex – including a racy night in a pool cave – but we spent most of our time on the beach, enjoying the buffet, doing naked karaoke, and just joking around.

For those wondering, I don't take my friends over to have sex with them.

I'm not saying you can't do that if you want to, but I think if I were to sleep with a partner it would open a Pandora's box that I closed a long time ago.

What I'm saying is that being single doesn't mean you can't have as much fun as couples.

But if the idea of ​​going it alone is intimidating, I get by with a little help from my friends – as the song goes. And you could too.

Go, laugh, have sex if you want – or not – and then go home for a debrief over a drink.

I can promise you that in a few years you will have hilarious memories that you can look back on for a long time.

* Names have been changed

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