DEAR DEIDRE: MY mother is a narcissist and a chronic liar.
It has taken me years to see past her lies, her tricks and her jealousy.
She is so cunning and crafty that I wonder if I should cut all contact with her.
I am a 28 year old single woman. Things got so bad between us that I moved in with my best friend.
When we meet, she puts me down, criticizes my appearance and then tells me her usual sob story that no one cares about her.
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My mother is 62. She accuses me of upsetting her when she is the one who is indifferent and unkind.
The problem is, she’s still my mom and I love her.
DEIDRE SAYS: It sounds like your mom has a narcissistic personality.
Whatever you say or do is unlikely to change.
She knows you love her and uses this to manipulate you.
The relationship is toxic and breaking up or at least limiting contact may be the best option.
Talking to a therapist can help.
Also contact Stand Alone who supports adults who are estranged from family members (standalone.org.uk).